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Big OzzieSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 21:53
THE ABOVE POLL IS A MULTIPLE CHOICE.....YOU MAY CLICK MORE THAN ONE ANSWER!! While posting on the topic of "Anal Sex" that was submitted so graciously by a member I shall not name. It occurred to me that there might be questions or problems that someone may have and you are afraid to discuss them with family or friends. Who knows, it could be about sex, life or death, feelings of depression, loneliness, problems with parents, friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, homosexuality, etc, etc....I could go on and on. But what it would do, if we can work it out with Tech-Guy is open a forum where the poster of the question can remain anonymous, without fear of others finding out who the are and perhaps face ridicule in the future. This Question could then be answered by your peers here on the Filecabi.net. With honest answers from people who don't have to be embarrassed by how the respond. Complete anonymity would be had. The forum would have to be monitored fairly closely by the Mods.......anyone flaming, or posting extremely negative responses would have the post deleted. For example: Joe Member posts "I think I am Gay and I do not know how to tell my parents" or someone else states "My boyfriend wants to have an ORGY and I don't, but I am afraid he'll break up with me if I don't..I just want to die!" NOW some idiot posts: "Cut your Dick off you POLE POLISHER and you will be all right!" or "Jump into the ORGY, Bitch or Go Kill Yourself!" Responses like those would have to be eliminated immediately, so don't even post them. This may take some work to make it fly.....that is the reason for the POLL. If we get enough positive response, it may influence the man behind the curtain to create the forum spot. Thanks, BIG ozzie
AllisterFiendSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 21:55
I think it would be a very good idea. Oh wise Ozzie :D
Rocker KidSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 21:58
Hey anything to help somone out, you've got my vote anyday, Big O. 8)
QuackersSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:09
On a previous forum I used to visit (though ive now been banned) they had a single thread where people could ask questions. If they wanted to do it anomously there were two 'anon' accounts available, where the passwords were freely available to everyone, so people could log into these mystery accounts and ask the question without everybody knowing. It also helped that the guy that started the thread was a real life doctor, and could advise on medical issues aswell. Nice guy. Unnfortunatly this system also gives idiots an easy oppotunity to abuse the freedom of the Anom accounts, and its not 100% anomolous because Mods/Admins can check the IP adress of whoever is using it. (Sorry for spelling, im abit drunk and I cant spell anyway :P )
Rocker KidSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:13
How come you got banned?
QuackersSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:15
Mind yer own business. :wink:
Rocker KidSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:17
Mind yer own business. :wink: Don't share so much with people. ;)
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:29
T.Rex claims: Unnfortunatly this system also gives idiots an easy oppotunity to abuse the freedom of the Anom accounts, and its not 100% anomolous because Mods/Admins can check the IP adress of whoever is using it. Well that is where the trust would have to be had. This website would not last very long if the members could not trust those in charge. I believe word would get around real quick if someone started to investigate IP addresses. Furthermore, if a person wanted to be really hidden, they could go to a public library or use a work computer or any other public computer which would give a totally different IP address. No system is 100% foolproof....but we can do our best. Even if we do not have "Professional" help like the site that you mentioned. I believe that truthful answers to problems or questions posted can be just as valuable, especially if they come from your peers or from the experience of members that you talk to every day. NOW if someone posts "I've got these nasty sores that are all bloody and covered with puss and they are growing all over my ass and face....What should I do?" I'm quite certain that most replies would be to get to a Doctor. No one is trying to be an expert, just give advise like you would give a friend. NOTE: If V.K. had been able to go to this site BEFORE suffocating her Hamster, we could have told her an easier or more humane way to do what she had to do!
AllisterFiendSalvaged from archive15 Jul 2006, 22:31
NOTE: If V.K. had been able to go to this site BEFORE suffocating her Hamster, we could have told her an easier or more humane way to do what she had to do! That's true... :?
verticalkillerSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 03:40
I agree with the idea, I probably owuldn't have even asked the forum though.
tech-guySalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 14:45
Thanks big Ozzie AWESOME Idea! Def get to work on that asap.. Don't worry I only really snoop on the IP's of Spammers
AllisterFiendSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 14:51
:D
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 15:59
Thanks big Ozzie AWESOME Idea! Def get to work on that asap.. Don't worry I only really snoop on the IP's of Spammers HOORAY!Looks like we are in, peeps! :D
Rocker KidSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 16:07
WOOT! :D
AllisterFiendSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 16:09
Now how 'bout those free shirts. 8) :lol:
Rocker KidSalvaged from archive16 Jul 2006, 16:12
Now how 'bout those free shirts. 8) :lol: Yeah wheres my shirt? :lol:
tgd_02Salvaged from archive23 Oct 2006, 12:17
the fuck happened to this fucking idea?
loadrunnerSalvaged from archive23 Oct 2006, 12:47
An Anonymus forum needs sharper rules, laughing at somebody, telling a secret could be result into a ban on the anonymus forum forever.....
AllisterFiendSalvaged from archive23 Oct 2006, 15:44
Yeah what happend?
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive23 Oct 2006, 15:53
"WHAT HAPPENED" questions should be addressed to Tech-Guy. When the idea was suggested and polled, he approved and likes the thought of it. Perhaps he was a bit busy in the reformat of the site and forgot. I think that if people were to start sending him PM's....it will give him a nudge!
CanadianIdiotSalvaged from archive23 Apr 2007, 03:01
wow talk about ollllllllld post by big o
RaidenatorSalvaged from archive23 Apr 2007, 03:10
Man this thread is old, but I still like the idea. I think we oughta get it going.
CanadianIdiotSalvaged from archive23 Apr 2007, 03:14
indeed
Clouds in the SkySalvaged from archive23 Apr 2007, 03:58
I support the idea, I think it would be kinda fun!
CanadianIdiotSalvaged from archive23 Apr 2007, 05:35
well i think its cool too
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 12:22
i agree on this idea. i would surely help people with their problems. so how about a new poll put in here?
Cymru am bythSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 12:36
LOL we could call it "the emo forum" :1orglaugh: please hand in your razor blades and paracetemol at the door:1bluewinky:
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 12:39
xD lmao
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 12:44
i agree on this idea. i would surely help people with their problems. so how about a new poll put in here? I will "sticky" the thread and put up a poll.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 12:59
I will "sticky" the thread and put up a poll. ;) good thinking ozzie
CanadianIdiotSalvaged from archive24 Apr 2007, 15:33
well gimme props for bringing it back to life! *high five*
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive25 Apr 2007, 18:14
The only way a Forum like this would work is if it were strictly moderated. We can't have some poor soul pouring out their problems and seeking advise or help in a forum where some twat tells them "Why don't ya just kill yerself and end all of yer problems!" While someone may not like the advise they get, there is no way we could allow smart-azz answers to be posted when someone is seriously seeking advise or help!
_booted_Salvaged from archive25 Apr 2007, 18:17
The only way a Forum like this would work is if it were strictly moderated. We can't have some poor soul pouring out their problems and seeking advise or help in a forum where some twat tells them "Why don't ya just kill yerself and end all of yer problems!" While someone may not like the advise they get, there is no way we could allow smart-azz answers to be posted when someone is seriously seeking advise or help! Good point Ozzie, It would be hard work moderating it
crazyjoeSalvaged from archive25 Apr 2007, 18:20
for that reason I don't think it'd work I mean most people are decent, but temp them enough and they'll post something like that.
CanadianIdiotSalvaged from archive25 Apr 2007, 18:22
well if you can add new moderators for specific forums ones that know about that particular subject and can help out the most with questions and said smart assess
211drinkerSalvaged from archive25 Apr 2007, 20:30
that would be the awesome, i volunteer to be the first one to seek advice when it opens up cuz im kinda in a dilema
loadrunnerSalvaged from archive26 Apr 2007, 12:39
And realy try to help people, by not telling someone -who was sad becouse his cat died-, to buy a new one..
Josh85Salvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 09:50
Pretty good idea I'd say.
Clouds in the SkySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 12:07
Again, I believe this would be a great idea.
JegarSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 12:12
Go for it
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:13
great idea and it might help out some people
Clouds in the SkySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:24
fo sho'. lol :D
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:43
Okay...I have made this thread a "Sticky" again and will ask the Administration to consider making it a new Forum. HOWEVER, there will be a disclaimer at the top like in the Health, Diet and Exercise Forum. Any advise given here, although it may be well intended does not take the place of professional advise and comes from your peers and other lay people or websites found on the Internet.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:45
needs to be moderated though, a lot. to prevend comments like go kill yourself for example.
Clouds in the SkySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:48
^^^ Absolutely.
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:53
needs to be moderated though, a lot. to prevend comments like go kill yourself for example. Believe me, It will be! That is why I kind of "dropped the ball" on this idea and let it disappear. I was and am still afraid of the repercussions that can be had due to some ignorant post that is made by someone. But apparently, people want it and would participate in it. In addition to a disclaimer, I will discuss with the staff about making the rules a little more stricter in here. If anyone does post something like you stated, Heero...it would result in an automatic ban from posting for a week or two (no warnings or points)
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 13:55
i totally agree on that. comments like that could affect a person's live way more than the average person thinks.
HeyBuddySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:00
If the moderators decide what is good advice, and what is bad advice, then shouldn't they just give all of the advice? Maybe someone really believes that killing yourself is a good answer. I'm sure there are enough sensible people in here to counter the bad advice.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:02
but they should like back up their comments. not go all like: OMG! GO KILL YOURSELFS THEN N00B!!11!! LOLZORZ do you know what i mean?
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:06
If the moderators decide what is good advice, and what is bad advice, then shouldn't they just give all of the advice? Maybe someone really believes that killing yourself is a good answer. I'm sure there are enough sensible people in here to counter the bad advice. The advise will not be coming from the Moderators only, but from anyone who wishes to participate! If someone posts a thread stating that they are depressed over a relationship or a breakup, or perhaps have a bad medical condition and someone posts "Just Kill yourself" or something like it....It will be deleted and the member will face a temporary Ban from posting! This is for people to seek advise and help for problems or things that they may feel awkward seeking advise elsewhere or do not know what to do about.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:08
is there going to come an account that anyone can logg into to tell their problem if they find it to akward to tell it with their own account?
HeyBuddySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:20
is there going to come an account that anyone can logg into to tell their problem if they find it to akward to tell it with their own account? I like that idea. The internet is pretty anonymous, but everybody has their own little internet identity. Being able to ask for advice without effecting their internet persona would be helpful in many ways. People won't give advice based on their personal thoughts about that person, and people will be more likely to be honest about their problem.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:23
but, the only problem that's is going to come when we do that is the abuse off the account. i suggest that account need to be restricted to the private question or problem part of the forum. so disable the function to post anywhere else or pm with it.
HeyBuddySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:24
Maybe we could just send the problem to a moderator and they can start the thread to keep it anonymous.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:26
but still if you want to keep it private....but you need to send it to a mod to let him/her make the topic... i like the anonymous account better. but that's up to the mods ;)
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:29
Maybe we could just send the problem to a moderator and they can start the thread to keep it anonymous. No THAT is a GOOD IDEA!! If a member does not want to post a problem or question, they can send it to a mod and the mod can cut and past it without showing the original senders ID! GREAT IDEA! Give yerself a Pat on the back, Buddy!
HeyBuddySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:31
Thanks Ozzie! I have to give credit to Heero though, because I wasn't really thinking along those lines until they brought up being anonymous.
Heero ValentineSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 14:35
;) just 2 great minds working together. kudo's for you idea though. i would had never thought that up. i just hope this is not going to be abused by member who think they're funny when they do that. otherwise it might end up being removed
ceehound619Salvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 18:51
yeah but whats gonna happen is that some people(not me ;>)) are gonna post BOGUS/fake problems.. and how much time is gonna be WASTED on those... how are you going to differentiate between "real" and bogus problems??
MightyTinySalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 19:20
That sounds like a good idea Ozzie! :xyxthumbs: Oops... just noticed it's also an old idea. A dead idea? :confused:
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 19:40
That sounds like a good idea Ozzie! :xyxthumbs: Oops... just noticed it's also an old idea. A dead idea? :confused: Actually, it is almost 18 months old! It has been kicked around the forums several time but never came to existence. I have sent the administration an internal message asking them to read these posts and consider the idea. I know Tech Guy was all for it when it came out Spring '06... let's see where it goes this time.
Big OzzieSalvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 19:45
yeah but whats gonna happen is that some people(not me ;>)) are gonna post BOGUS/fake problems.. and how much time is gonna be WASTED on those... how are you going to differentiate between "real" and bogus problems?? We have already had members "cry wolf" with self pity posts and fake suicide attempts. You eventually will weed those types out and know that they are not for real. We have also already had a member "come out" and finally admit to himself and everyone here that he was Gay...something that had troubled him for years because he did not know or was not sure. There may be fake claims or fake problems presented, but we will have to deal with all of them as if they are real!
ceehound619Salvaged from archive2 Sept 2007, 21:17
I think you should call it the "Dr. Phil Cabi" room. :xyxthumbs:
AfronaughtSalvaged from archive4 Sept 2007, 00:35
Anyone that would seek help or advise from this Lot should seek professional help! LOL I agree
HeyBuddySalvaged from archive18 Sept 2007, 23:23
Over 70% wanted a new private question or problem forum, and we got a XXX forum. Just an observation.
FuriousZSalvaged from archive19 Sept 2007, 01:15
Over 70% wanted a new private question or problem forum, and we got a XXX forum. Just an observation. Next best thing right? Seems to work wonders with the trouble shooting too, everyone is nice and chill. :omg:
MonstermashSalvaged from archive19 Sept 2007, 02:00
I think the anonymous account is a good idea. So could an existing member then log in as this 'anonymous' person and then state their problem, maybe they would still be too worried because they would still figure they could be identified in some way, maybe through their I.P. address or something like that. If there was'nt an anonymous account, a member may not like to make their problem known even to a moderator. All the same though, I think it's worth giving it a try. I voted yes to the idea and that it should be heavely moderated. I also wondered if the facility exists where perhaps one of us members entered a reply, but the moderator would be able to see it first before letting the post be entered into the thread or maybe that would be too complicated or such a facility does'nt exist.

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